She overpowered me and forced me to have sex!
For four months now, I have been under extreme duress. And here's why: I live with my family and only child in Mumbai in an apartment complex. A new family moved in and on the same floor. The lady has become friendly to my wife and I have also started knowing the couple well. One day , my wife was out and I was alone. The bell rang. It was my new neighbour's wife. She entered on the pretext that she has lost the key of her house and would need to spend time at my house until the keys were sent from her husband's office. Being a good neighbour, I did not refuse and asked her to make herself comfortable in the drawing room. I was struggling with a water container (weighing 20 kgs) and she volunteered to help. In fact, she even lifted it easily and kept in the designated slot. She caught me and put her hands around me. I was taken aback. I am around 5'
11'' but am thin; she is shorter but is stockily built. Until that time, however, I never realised that she could be stronger than me. She actually overpowered me and forced me to have sex with her. This has become a regular occurrence because she threatens to tell everyone if I ever squeal. In fact, she also dominates her husband and I don't think he has any say in what she does. It is extremely embarrassing and you need to help me out here. What can I do?
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Don't expect me to seriously believe that a woman can overpower you not once, but several times to get what she wants, without you putting up even the slightest bit of resistance at any given point in this whole affair. You wanted to be overpowered. In any case, what if she decides to blackmail you just for kicks (if not for sex anymore)? What will you do then? Nobody is going to believe your version of the story anyway. I'm not saying she doesn't have a dominating personality, just that you willingly wanted to be dominated and that in a kinky sort of way, it gave you a kind of rush. Also, if nobody knows about this clandestine affair (yet), what is your problem? How are you getting embarrassed? Stop playing the hypocrite and enjoy it while it lasts or find the balls to call it quits and take control of the situation before it really gets out of hand. Estimates aside, stop behaving like the odds were stacked against you and that you had no way out.
I'm having an affair
I'm from North-East India. I got married at a very young age and have a six- month-old daughter. Before my daughter was born, I had a relationship with another married girl. We even had oral sex at her place once. She tells me that she is not happy with her husband. Hers was an arranged marriage. What do I do? Should I stop being in this relationship?
Are you justifying being married at a very young age, for your actions? All said and done, adultery is clear-cut cheating. You have no business indulging in it in the first place if you do decide to develop a conscience later on. It's a decision you have to live with. Whatever lured you into getting in this relationship, you have to decide whether you want to continue being in it or not. Her having been part of an arranged marriage is no justification for you 'helping out'.