He wants to watch... while I have sex with another guy
I'm 27, married for the last five years. I have a two-year-old son. My sex life with my husband is also going fine. One day, my husband had a strange idea to introduce a second man during sex. I feel it's a perverse idea and told him it could ruin our relationship, but he insisted on a threesome as he told me it was a one-off. He introduced a man as his friend for it. To my surprise, my husband was a mere spectator while the friend and I had sex. Later on, he told me that he enjoys watching me having sex with another man. I was shattered and now he insists on always doing this. Does my husband need to visit a psychiatrist ASAP. Otherwise, our sex life is quite okay.
It's always a bad plan in principle to fix something when it ain't broke. You had a normal content sex life. There was no place for something this kinky. Ideally, you should have stood your ground and firmly refused your husband. Introducing another man into your marriage will not only complicate things, but the way things panned out, will destroy your marriage. It is perverse as your husband wishes to remain a mere spectator and let another man have you. Doing this continuously is out of the question. Flatly refuse him and threaten to walk out if he insists. Yes, get him to visit a psychiatrist ASAP
Still hung up on her
We were in love for around six to seven years. One day, she told me it was all over. After that, I haven't even asked her why nor have I met her. In 2008, I got married to a girl. Two days later, we came to know that she is mentally ill, so we separated. I am still hung up on my ex and when I am alone, I think about her. I still love her and hope she's happy.
Why did you wait too long for her to reply or justify her exit from your life. Understandably there may have been something drastic that might have led to her separation from you. Also, you ought to divorce your wife if you foresee a future with your ex. Seek her out and figure out if she's still interested in keeping in touch and getting back with you.
Too bulky to be boyfriend
I am 21 years old and live in Dubai, I work with a reputed bank. The problem is, I don't know how to propose to a girl. I used to like a few girls in my school and college but never had the courage to ask them and this has demotivated me. I always get upset seeing my friends and colleagues enjoying time with their girlfriends, as I am left alone without any partner. Also lately, I focused my time on body building. Now girls either ignore me or don't take interest in me due to my bulky body. Will my bodybuilding affect my life? Many girls are either scared or don't want to have an Arnold Schwartzenegger-kind of boyfriend.
Most girls simply require one thing from their guys. That they be the centre of his universe. They might not be on the lookout for Mr Universe (quit the Arnie obsession already!) but they're sure looking for Mr Right. What you need to do, is show a girl that you can love her more than you love your body. Try and understand what she wants and why she'd love to be with you. And work on your good qualities.